Soul Awakening Kickstarters
Finding your true self, changing your life for the better, awakening to who you really are, self-love and self-care, a healthy, happier, whole you….all of that sounds good right?
But how do you actually get there? How do you actually do it?
Great questions…and the answer is going to be different for everyone. Why? Because we’re all unique individuals and what worked for me may not work for you. My process, my steps, my exact journey will not be what your journey looks like. And that’s completely okay.
The end goal is the same, the steps, the process, the roads, the detours, all of it…will be what YOU need to get you to your breakthrough, your shift, your elevation in consciousness, closer to you truly are, who you were designed to be, the reason your soul is here in this lifetime.
See, this journey, it doesn’t have a final destination. You arrive and then you arrive again and you continue to arrive until the very end, which is when you take your final breath.
We live in a world that loves to give us one-size-fits-all solutions
If “one fit all” we wouldn’t have SO many options overwhelming us on a daily basis. I mean how many different salsa options does a person really need? Grocery store shelves are out of control with their options.
How many diets have you started and then stopped because it wasn’t working for you any longer? Or it just wasn’t sustainable? This diet may have worked for its creator, but you are not them. You are uniquely you.
If you’re an entrepreneur, or a start-up company, how many “how to” and marketing strategies have you tried that left you feeling frustrated and defeated because they worked for its creator, but it didn’t work for you and your business. You are uniquely you.
There’s a difference between sharing and selling
When someone tells you this works, this is how you do it, these are the exact steps, this is what you have to do, this is what you need…bottom line, end of story. That’s selling.
When someone says, “hey you might like this”, or “this worked for me”, or “this resonated with me”, “I had success in this, you can try it out and see if it works for you.” “I really enjoyed this….book, video, message, documentary, maybe you will too.” Or “this is the food system that works for me, you can try it out and see if it works for you.” That’s sharing. They’re not selling a guarantee.
See, it’s easier to put the responsibility on someone else, to have someone figure “it” out for us, do all the work, and then we try it and when “it” doesn’t work out, we can blame them or the thing they tried to sell us.
When we see what we determine to be a happy successful person (in business, health, any area, life in general), wouldn’t it be easier to just hop into their mold, do what they did, so we can feel that way and have that too? Wouldn’t that save so much time and energy? Failures and frustrations? Wouldn’t it?
Just one problem
They are not you, you are not them. You are uniquely you.
There is no such thing as one-size-fits-all. There is no mold. There is no guarantee that this worked for me so it will work for you too. Because…You are uniquely you.
So how do you figure out what works for you then? How do you find your way? Your path?
You first realize and accept it’s not going to look like anybody else’s. You realize that nothing is off the table, meaning anything goes. Whatever it takes to get you to where you want to be, you will discover for yourself if that works for you or not.
See that’s the hardest part, the unknown path, the uncertainty. We want the whole plan, we want to see the big picture, have the step-by-step, because we want to know what to expect, a guaranteed outcome. We want the assurance that someone has done this before and they can help you through it too.
However, when we do this and it doesn’t work for us, we get upset, or mad and frustrated and say, “see this didn’t work, I suck, I’m a failure, I give up.” And then you slide right back into that nice comfy cozy place you’ve created for yourself called complacency.
You were made for more
Deep down you know you were too, that’s why you desire more. But back to the same questions, how do you get from where you are now to where you want to be?
You stop comparing yourself to others and you stop thinking if you do what they did then you’ll get the same results. And you start to get to know your unique self.
Now you may “try” some of the same things others have tried, it may be some, it may be all, but you do so with the understanding that you’re experimenting, you’re trying to learn about you, what works for you, what doesn’t. You’re open to trying new things and exploring the possibilities without the fixed notion that this is your “it” and if it doesn’t work for you then you give up.
Giving up is not an option
Because we already know, you know, you were made for more. So don’t play that game with yourself. This is a process, discovering your true self, living out life itself, is a process and a journey that can not be rushed. There are no shortcuts, there are no cheat codes. You are here to experience every part, every piece is vital to the unfolding and awakening of each level of consciousness.
Have grace for yourself in this journey
Remember it is a marathon, not a sprint. And remember your process, each step you take, will look different than my process, and my steps. The more you grow, the more you’ll discover things all on your own that you in turn can share with someone some day asking you the same questions.
Although I don’t have a quick fix, a 10 steps to blah blah blah….I do have several things I can share that may or may not be a starting point for you.
Ultimately the more you discover who you truly are, the more happiness and freedom you will find.
You’ll discover this on your own, but let me be the first to tell you, you are incredible.
There’s no one else like you.
That can be scary to think about for someone who just wants to belong and fit in, but what if who you truly are, was born and designed to stand out? Would you deny your true self its unique existence?
Don’t worry my friend, being unique doesn’t mean that you must stand alone, it means that discovering the true you will bring people into your life who not only see the true you, but will love and support you in all do, being uniquely you.
So here are a few things I’ve done and/or tried in my journey to myself. I don’t want to contribute to the already overwhelming world of options by giving you more options, but we all need to start somewhere with something.
Remember I do not promise or guarantee these will work or resonate with you, but they’re all free for you to try and trying one that may not work for you may lead you to the thing that does.
Soul awakening kickstarters
1. Identify your Confidant
No one should ever have to journey alone. We were created for community and I recommend having at least one close confidant, that is a safe place and space for you to have an outlet, to be a sounding board. Someone with no agenda, someone who only has your best interest at heart. Someone who understands that most of the time they’re just there to listen rather than offer advice because this is about you figuring out your own path knowing you have the love and support to do so.
If you don’t have anybody in your life that you can identify as your confidant, don’t worry because you have me. I’m serious. You can’t get hung up on this. Doesn’t matter where in the world you are, thanks to technology we can get to know one another, and I can be your confidant. My best friend of six years and I met on Instagram and talked over a walkie-talkie app, called Voxer, for three straight years before we ever met in person. And I’ve made countless connections and friends online that I stay in contact with and are near and dear to my heart. This is the whole purpose behind Made to Love, if you feel like you don’t have anyone in your life than fits the confidant role, then you have me.
2. Know your personality type
One step in helping you know and understand yourself a little bit better is discovering your personality type. Now keep in mind, this is just a starting point, personality is just one of many factors that guide our behavior. Our actions are also influenced by our environment, our experiences, conditioning and our individual goals.
These results outline indicators and tendencies, however, not definitive guidelines or answers. Significant differences can exist even among people who share a personality type. This information is meant to inspire personal growth and an improved understanding of yourself and your relationships, not to be taken as gospel.
If you’d like to take the test, click here.
If you’d like to learn more about the history of how this personality test came to be, you can read about it here.
I’ve taken the test once a year for the past several years, since there’s been a lot of change and rapid growth, just to see if my type or percentages changed. I save the results in my email so I can compare the most recent test to the last. My type hasn’t changed, I’m still an INFJ, but what was really interesting to see was how my percentages in each category changed.
What was really cool was to see that I went from being an INFJ-T to an INFJ-A. The T stands for Turbulent and the A stands for Assertive. That’s just one way to see and measure your growth and progress, I went from being 64% Turbulent to 63% Assertive. I could tell this about myself without having taken the test again, but it was cool to see on paper.
Although I said there is no fast track, no cheat code system, to quickening the journey to your true self. I do want to say that the longer I’ve been living in this space, and operating at this frequency, the faster I learn things, the quicker things are revealed to me, and I can process things more quickly now than I did a year ago. It just depends on what it is.
The processing and integration timeline is just as unique as the journey itself.
Life goes fast enough, don’t try to rush this.
…and then last but not least…
3. Answer these questions
Whether you grab a good old-fashioned pen and paper, type it out in your notes app on your smartphone, or buy a super cute journal from Marshall’s, write today’s date down, and then answer the following questions.
(If you can’t answer one, that’s okay, skip it and move onto the next one. Perhaps in a few weeks or months you can come to these questions and answer them. You can compare your answers then to the first time you wrote them down.)
Be as real, raw, and honest with yourself as you can. You don’t have to show these to anyone, so don’t hold back.
Ready…sit up straight, take a slow, deep inhale through your nose, hold it for a second, and now slowly exhale through your nose or open mouth. If that felt amazing, do it again.
And then let’s get to it!
1) Who are you right now? (you can list character traits, or the profession you’re in, or your role in your current life situation)
2) Who do you desire to be? (not another person, but what traits do you want to have, or what profession or role would you desire, imagine no limits, anything goes)
3) What is stopping you, or what or who is standing in your way of who you desire to be? (write them all down, every single thing you can think of)
4) What are the most important things to you in your life right now? (this can be one thing or many, a person or people, or a feeling or something you desire like a stable job, good physical health, a healthy relationship etc.)
5) Now, look at the list of ‘what’s important to you’ and write down the things on that list that you do not currently have in your life.
6) What do you think is the reason(s) you don’t have them?
7) What is something you love about yourself, or that is unique about you that you love? (If you have more than one thing, awesome, write them all down!)
8) What is your level of commitment to yourself? 1 being “meh, I’m not really committed to this at all”, and 10 being, “I’m fully devoted and committed and nothing is going to stop me” (In other words, how committed are you to grow, evolve, and shift into your soul awakening and discovering your unique design?)
9) What is your very earliest memory of pain? Think about this one for a moment, what is the very first memory that comes to mind of when you felt pain, hurt, betrayal, sadness, heartbreak, misunderstood, broken, lost, confused? How old were you? Write down this memory, write down what happened, how it made you feel, and why it made you feel this way.
Now answer this question.
10) Do you really truly think you’ve completely and wholly healed from this experience, situation, circumstance? Or have you been carrying it around with you your entire life?
This is your starting point.
I can expound upon this further, as in “okay I’ve identified this now what do I do next”, with you personally or perhaps in another post. Just the fact that you identified this, is you facing it, and it will allow your nervous system to start to process all of the feelings and emotions that come along with it. And that means you are one step closer to truly healing from it.
11) How do you best take in information? (do you like to read? Listen? Watch? Are you a hands-on learner?)
Based on your answer and background I can recommend a starting place for you to explore in the world of books, videos, and podcasts. My recommendation would be uniquely to you, so contact me if you want to take this a step further and get my personal recommendations.
Remember, not every thing is for every one
It’s part of the reason we have so many options today. From why there’s 30 different toothpastes, to different types of religion and thousands of varying churches and pastors, to diets and exercises, to ways to get help and support. And that is only a few categories of thousands and thousands I could have listed. The point is, we have sooooooooooo many options.
Then we find something that works for us, and we think it will work for everyone because it worked for us, not true.
We are all unique, we are all at different phases and stages of life
And it’s important to keep in mind, that what may work for you, may not work for others. And what may work for you now, may not always, that’s called evolution, that’s called growth and it’s not only perfectly normal, but it’s to be expected.
It’s okay to share what’s worked for you, that’s exactly what I do when people ask, however, I share with them having the understanding and acceptance that what I’m sharing with the person may or may not resonate with them. They may take it and run with it or leave and never look back. They may also not take it and run with it now, but they could a year from now. Guess what? All of these possibilities are totally and completely 100% okay.
Side bar: a good example of this for me personally is I had ordered a book and it sat on a shelf for a year! I never even cracked it open, and then one day after a year of having the book I picked it up, read it and it was exactly what I needed to hear and it pertained perfectly to where I was at in my life and my healing journey.
Let’s share and guide instead of selling and telling
If you’d like to share your personality test results or any other part of this post that resonated with you, please feel free to do so by leaving a comment or sending me a DM on Instagram or Facebook, or via email. I meant what I said about being here for you.
This is all about your soul’s journey, awakening and discovering who you truly are. No one can tell you how you should get there, it’s your journey and yours alone. You can have all the love, support, understanding, encouragement and guidance you need, but ultimately it’s your process in your timing. And I’ll be here cheering you on because I believe in you, do you?
In Love and Light, Kristin xo